The holidays are a time for togetherness, celebration and reflection. However, for families navigating dementia, this season can bring unique challenges. How can we create an inclusive environment while honoring the preferences and dignity of people living with dementia? By approaching the holidays with empathy, flexibility and thoughtful planning, we can ensure that everyone -- regardless of cognitive ability -- feels valued and connected.
When supporting someone living with dementia during the holidays, it is essential to prioritize their comfort and preferences. Familiarity is key. The sights, sounds and routines of the holidays can evoke both joy and confusion, so maintaining familiar traditions and environments can help minimize stress. For example, use decorations and music that the individual recognizes from earlier years, rather than introducing new, unfamiliar elements.
It is equally important to recognize when traditions may no longer serve their needs. If large gatherings once brought joy but now cause agitation or fatigue, consider adapting the event. Smaller, quieter get-togethers reduce overstimulation, enhance familiarity and allow for more meaningful connections.
Inclusion goes beyond physical presence; it's about ensuring that your loved one feels seen, heard and valued. Encourage family and friends to engage meaningfully with the person living with dementia. Simple activities like looking through old photo albums, singing carols or sharing stories can spark connection. Tasks such as helping decorate or stirring cookie dough can ensure they feel involved.
The holidays can be overwhelming, particularly when routines are disrupted. Pay attention to your loved one's mood and energy levels and be ready to adapt. If they become agitated or tired, provide a quiet retreat where they can rest. Scheduling events in the morning or early afternoon often helps, as does avoiding rigid timelines or social obligations. Flexibility and sensitivity to their needs are key to reducing stress.
Focusing on the present moment is often a reality for people living with dementia, and there is much we can learn from their perspective. Rather than striving to recreate past holidays, embrace the beauty of what the present offers. A shared laugh, a heartfelt conversation, or the joy of a favorite holiday treat can hold more meaning than elaborate festivities. By focusing on the here and now, we can foster deeper connections and let go of unmet expectations.
Ultimately, the holidays are about love, connection and gratitude. By tailoring celebrations to the needs of people living with dementia, we honor their dignity and humanity. Small acts of inclusion, moments of shared joy and an attitude of flexibility can transform the holidays into a meaningful time for all.
This season, let us commit to creating an environment where everyone feels valued. In doing so, we not only support our loved ones living with dementia but also embody the true spirit of the holidays: compassion, connection and care.
Those interested in learning more about how to support the well-being of people living with dementia and their care partners can go to the UNR School of Public Health's Dementia Engagement, Education and Research (DEER) Program website at DEERprogram.org. Those interested in getting connected with local dementia-friendly and inclusive efforts through Dementia Friendly Nevada can visit DFNV.org.
Marc Lemon is a student in the Masters of Public Health program at UNR and a member of the Dementia Friendly Nevada Support Team.